No! No! No!

Here is a quote I read awhile ago: "Smart girls are the over-thinkers, the insecure ones, the different ones. They know what the real world is like. They analyze every little thing in life. Why? To avoid getting hurt. To find happiness. They stay up at night trying to think about every possible situation to get through all the problems. They think too much. They trust less people. Their insecurity proves their respect towards themselves. Of course they try to live away from a drama-filled life. Smart girls know their worth, now that's the ones worth keeping by your side."

Need I say again... no! no! no! This is coming from a girl who is partially described in this quote. It is not so romantic, it is not so sweet, nor so admirable. Its fear and loneliness and hopelessness. Maybe the reason I react so much to this is because I am not okay with a fault of mine not only being accepted as good, but admirable. I know it to be what it is and it is not romantic, healthy, or admirable. At face value, this quote is promoting insecurity, fear, shells. They are not the first people I would want to spend the rest of my life with if I were a boy.

Now, this may be someones best attempt to explain something that is good. To give it the benefit of the doubt if the quote could be translated as:


"Smart girls are the ones with understanding, the cautious ones, the different ones. They understand the foundations and principles of human behavior. They analyze what is generally accepted to make their own decisions based on their understanding. Why? To avoid taking the common path to hurt and ruin. To find happiness. They are not don't trust easily. Their caution, wisdom, and willingness to do the lonely, right thing proves their respect towards themselves. Of course they try to live away from a drama-filled life. Smart girls - wise girls - know their worth, now that's the ones worth keeping by your side."

Still, unfortunately, it is a bit over-romanticized and unrealistic. It is very self-trusting and lonesome. There doesn't seem to be much hope in it except, hey, you're smart. And when it does get realistic, no one seems to really want smart girls. There has to be something more than all that. There is, thank goodness, but it is not in this quote. I guess that was really the point of this post, to say, don't allow yourself to have false hope in just that, because when you are at your end, you'll realize it's not enough to carry you past it... I know. Without a real reason, it might seem more profitable just not to be "smart." If you browse my other posts you'll see that there is a lot more, but it will take more room than I have time for in this post.

-Lynsi Keyes